What Is a Sex-Positive Attitude?

什么是性积极？

Being sex-positive means recognising that sex is a natural part of life. It can bring pleasure, connection, and vitality. It also recognises that young people, and adults, have the right to express their thoughts, feelings, needs, and values about sex.

性积极意味着承认性是人生的一部分。它可以带来愉悦、连接和活力。它也承认年轻人以及成年人都有权表达与性相关的想法、感受、需求和价值观

A sex-positive attitude is grounded in acceptance, not shame, denial, suppression, or avoidance.

性积极的核心是接纳，而不是羞耻、否认、压制或回避

What Sex-Positive Does NOT Mean

性积极不等于

• It does not mean you must have an active sex life.
  并不意味着你必须拥有活跃的性生活

• It does not mean you must be experienced.
  并不意味着你必须很有经验

• It does not mean you must watch pornography.
  并不意味着你必须看色情内容

• It does not mean you must be adventurous or try everything.
  并不意味着你必须开放大胆、尝试各种方式

• You can be abstinent.
  你可以选择不发生性行为

• You can be conservative about sex.
  你可以对性持保守态度

• Being sex-positive means you do not impose your values on others. You respect diversity, even when it differs from your own beliefs.

• 性积极意味着不把自己的价值观强加给别人。即使与你的信念不同，也愿意尊重多样性

Sex Can Bring Joy and It Can Bring Challenges

性可以带来愉悦，也可能带来困扰

Parents should understand that sexuality can involve pleasure as well as emotional or physical risks.

父母需要理解，性既可能带来愉悦，也可能伴随情感或身体上的风险

A sex-positive approach acknowledges concerns and risks, then addresses them openly. It supports children in making informed choices through communication and respect for autonomy.

性积极的方式是承认风险，然后通过开放沟通与尊重自主权来帮助孩子做出知情选择

What Kind of Adult Do Kids Feel Safe Talking To?

什么样的成年人更容易让孩子愿意沟通？

• A good listener
  好的聆听者

• Curious, non-judgemental, patient
  保持好奇、不批评、耐心

• Willing to clarify and understand the child’s perspective
  愿意确认理解孩子的观点

• Honest and genuine
  诚实真诚

• You do not need to know every answer.
  你不需要知道所有答案

• If you do not know, say so and look it up together.
  如果不知道，可以坦诚，并一起寻找答案

• Set boundaries around private information and teach respect for privacy.
  为私密信息设立界限，同时教孩子尊重他人隐私

• A sex-positive approach is not about encouraging sexual activity. It is about encouraging respect, knowledge, autonomy, and healthy relationships.

• 性积极不是鼓励性行为，而是鼓励尊重、知识、自主权与健康关系

A Simplified Guide for Parents

性教育简化版指南

• Sex does not equal sexual intercourse.
  性不等于性行为

• Sex education is also education about love, connection, respect, and boundaries.
  性教育也是关于爱、连接、尊重与界限的教育

• Parents can filter information, but cannot completely block misinformation.
  父母可以帮助筛选信息，但无法完全阻止错误信息

• Therefore, developing critical thinking skills is essential.
  因此，培养孩子的批判性思维能力非常重要

• The goal of sex education is helping children understand and accept their bodies, develop self-awareness, and build their own values.
  性教育的目标是帮助孩子认识和接纳身体，建立自我认知与价值观

Three Stages of Sex Education

性教育的三个阶段

1. Do not over-initiate, but do not avoid. Use simple, clear language children can understand.

   不刻意频繁提起，但也不回避，用简单明了的语言解释

2. Bring up topics when appropriate.

   在合适的时机主动提起

3. Throughout the process, focus on respect, healthy interaction, and self-protection skills.

   整个过程中，重点是尊重、健康互动与自我保护能力的培养

Components of a Sex-Positive Approach

性积极教育的组成

• Teach Self-Love and Respect for Others

教孩子爱自己，也尊重ta人

Children should learn bodily autonomy and emotional awareness.

孩子需要学习身体自主权和情绪认知

• Critical Reflection

批判性思考

Parents should reflect on their own beliefs and cultural influences.

父母需要反思自己的价值观和文化影响

Ask yourself
问问自己

Is what I believe accurate?
我的观念是否准确？

How has culture shaped my thinking?
文化如何影响了我的思考？

The first step is self-reflection and learning.

第一步是自我反思与学习

• Trust-Based Communication

建立信任的沟通

Use language that is age-appropriate, evidence-based, and free of prejudice.

使用符合年龄、基于科学、无偏见的语言

Avoid statements such as “homosexuality is wrong” or “transgender identity is abnormal.”

避免使用“同性恋不正常”或“跨性别是错误的”等语言

Encourage open discussions about

Healthy relationships, including emotional manipulation or abuse
性健康关系，包括情感操控或虐待

Sexual diversity and gender diversity
性与性别的多样性

Cultural norms and stereotypes
传统观念与刻板印象

Teach children how to seek help and understand their rights.

教孩子如何求助，并了解自己的权利

• A Positive Outlook

肯定的态度

Sex is not only about reproduction.

性不仅仅是生殖

It can involve intimacy, emotional connection, desire, and pleasure.

它也包括亲密、情感连接、欲望与愉悦

Parents should create a safe, respectful, non-pressured environment for discussion.

父母应营造一个安全、尊重、不强迫的沟通环境

Using Inclusive Language

使用包容性语言

When discussing bodies, gender, and sexuality, use clear and inclusive terms.

讨论身体、性别和性时，要使用清晰且包容的语言

Biological Sex

生理性别

Male typically refers to bodies with a penis and testicles.
男性通常指拥有阴茎和睾丸的身体

Female typically refers to bodies with a vulva and internal reproductive organs.
女性通常指拥有外阴及内部生殖系统的身体

Intersex refers to natural variations in chromosomes, hormones, or anatomy.
双性人指染色体、荷尔蒙或生理结构的自然差异

Gender Identity

性别认同

Cisgender means a person’s gender identity aligns with their sex assigned at birth.
顺性别指性别认同与出生时指定性别一致

Transgender refers to a person whose gender identity differs from their sex assigned at birth.
跨性别指性别认同与出生时指定性别不同

Non-binary refers to identities outside the traditional male/female binary.
非二元性别指不局限于传统男女二元分类

People express gender through names, pronouns, appearance, and behaviour.
人们通过姓名、代词、外表和行为表达性别

Sexual Orientation

性取向

Sexual orientation describes who a person is emotionally or sexually attracted to.

性取向描述一个人情感或性吸引的对象

Some people are attracted to one gender.
有些人只对一种性别有吸引

Some are attracted to multiple genders.
有些人对多种性别有吸引

Some are asexual and experience little or no sexual attraction.
有些人是无性恋，对任何性别都几乎没有性吸引

Sexual awareness often develops during puberty, but can begin earlier.

性取向的认知多在青春期出现，也可能更早

Parents should guide, not control.

父母应引导，而不是控制