“I’ll Just Rub, No Penetration”

“我就蹭蹭，不进去”

Sound familiar?

是不是听起来很熟悉？

Some people use this phrase casually, but today let’s look at it from a sexual health perspective.

有些人随口会这么说，但今天我们从性健康的角度来认真看看这件事

Yes, it can be a real and valid sexual choice.

是的，这确实可以成为一种真实、有效的性选择

What Is Dry Humping?

什么是干磨？

Dry humping refers to simulating sexual movement while both partners keep their clothes on.

干磨是指在双方都穿着衣服的情况下，模拟性行为的动作

There is no penetration and ideally no exchange of bodily fluids.

没有插入行为，也尽量避免体液交换

It can still produce arousal and pleasure, and some people may even reach orgasm this way.

它依然可以带来兴奋和愉悦，有些人甚至可以达到高潮

Other related English terms include “grinding” and “frottage.”

英文里也常用 “grinding” 或 “frottage” 等词

Is Dry Humping Safer Than Withdrawal?

干磨比体外射精更安全吗？

Generally, yes.

相对来说，是的

If clothing remains on and prevents genital contact or fluid exchange, the risk of pregnancy is extremely low.

如果衣物保持完整、避免生殖器直接接触或体液交换，怀孕风险极低

STI risk is also significantly lower compared to unprotected penetration.

性传播感染的风险也远低于无保护的插入式性行为

However, certain infections that spread through skin-to-skin contact, such as pubic lice or herpes, may still be possible if there is close contact.

但某些通过皮肤接触传播的感染，例如阴虱或疱疹，在密切接触时仍有可能传播

Overall, dry humping is more predictable and lower risk than withdrawal.

总体而言，干磨比体外射精更可控、风险更低

Is It Still Sex If Clothes Stay On?

穿着衣服还算是性生活吗？

Yes.

是的

Sex is not defined only by penetration. It includes a wide range of consensual sexual activities that create intimacy and pleasure.

性并不只等于插入。只要是在双方同意下带来亲密和愉悦的行为，都属于性体验的一部分

Dry humping is one of many forms of sexual expression.

干磨只是性表达方式中的一种

Different Forms of Dry Humping

干磨的不同方式

There are many variations. The key principle remains the same: no penetration.

方式可以很多，但核心原则是：不插入

For example:

例如：

• Rubbing between the thighs
  在大腿之间摩擦

• Rubbing between the buttocks without penetration
  在臀部之间摩擦但不插入

• Rubbing against the chest or torso
  在胸部或躯干部位摩擦

• Using hands to create external stimulation without penetration
  使用双手进行外部刺激

These examples highlight how creativity and consent shape sexual experiences.

这些例子说明，创意和双方同意可以塑造不同的性体验

Practical Considerations

实际注意事项

Dry humping is not only about reducing risk. It can also:

干磨不仅仅是降低风险，它还可以：

• Help people explore intimacy gradually
• Provide an option during menstruation
• Reduce anxiety about pregnancy
• Offer alternatives for people with penetration pain

• 帮助循序渐进地探索亲密
• 在月经期间提供替代选择
• 降低对怀孕的焦虑
• 为有插入疼痛的人提供替代方式

Clothing thickness matters. Thin or wet fabrics can reduce the protective effect.

衣物厚度很重要。过薄或湿透的布料会降低保护效果

Communication Is Essential

沟通是关键

Before trying anything, talk openly.

在尝试之前，先坦诚沟通

Ask about comfort, boundaries, and preferences.

询问对方的舒适度、界限和偏好

Safer sex is not only about condoms. It is about informed choices, mutual respect, and shared responsibility.

安全性行为不仅仅是戴套，更是知情选择、彼此尊重和共同负责

Example Conversation

示例对话

A: Would you like to try something tonight?
A：今晚想尝试点什么吗？

B: I’m on my period, so penetration might not feel comfortable. Maybe we could try dry humping?
B：我来月经了，插入可能不太舒服。要不要试试干磨？

A: Sure. What feels good for you?
A：可以。你觉得什么方式比较舒服？

This kind of conversation builds safety and connection.

这样的沟通有助于建立安全感和亲密感

Final Thought

小总结

Dry humping is not a “less serious” form of sex. It is a valid sexual choice.

干磨不是“次一级”的性行为，而是一种正当的性选择

Sexual health is about expanding options, not limiting them.

性健康的核心是扩大选择，而不是限制选择

When consent, comfort, and communication are present, intimacy becomes safer and more meaningful.

当同意、舒适和沟通都到位时，亲密关系会更加安全，也更有意义