Feeling Safe is Essential

安全感是基础

1. Believe Them

相信Ta

Sharing a story of sexual trauma takes enormous courage. If your partner opens up, thank them for trusting you.

讲述性创伤经历需要巨大的勇气。如果对方向你敞开心扉，请真诚感谢Ta的信任

Listen without interrupting. Avoid pressing for details. Don’t minimise or question their experience.

倾听而不打断。不要追问细节。不要质疑或淡化Ta的经历

Sometimes the most powerful response is simply: “I believe you.”

有时候，最有力量的一句话就是：“我相信你。”

2. Create a Safe Environment

创造安全的环境

Safety is not just physical. It is emotional.

安全不仅仅是身体上的，更是情绪上的

Work together to create spaces that feel calming and predictable. Soft lighting, warm blankets, or soothing music may help, but what matters most is emotional safety.

可以一起营造让对方感到放松的环境，例如柔和的灯光、毛毯或舒缓的音乐。但最重要的是情绪上的安全

Before deep conversations, ask what topics feel okay and what boundaries should be respected.

在沟通前，先问清楚哪些话题可以聊，哪些界限需要被尊重

3. Understand Triggers

理解触发

Certain movements, tones of voice, smells, or positions can trigger trauma responses.

某些动作、语气、气味或姿势都可能触发创伤反应

Let your partner know they can pause or stop at any time.

告诉Ta，任何时候都可以说“停”或“慢一点”

If they freeze, cry, or seem distant, gently check in instead of reacting defensively.

如果Ta突然僵住、哭泣或变得疏离，请温柔地询问，而不是防御或责怪

4. Consent Applies to Everything

知情同意适用于一切

For trauma survivors, consent is deeply important.

对于创伤幸存者来说，知情同意极其重要

Ask before physical contact. Even small gestures matter.

在进行任何肢体接触前先询问。哪怕是小动作也很重要

Consent builds trust. Trust builds safety.

同意建立信任，信任带来安全

5. Share Your Own Needs Honestly

诚实表达自己的需求

Supporting someone does not mean suppressing yourself.

支持对方不代表压抑自己

Share your feelings gently. Speak about your needs without blame.

温和地表达你的感受。在不指责的前提下说出你的需求

Encourage open communication both ways.

鼓励双向沟通

Healthy relationships allow space for both people.

健康的关系应当容纳双方的需要

6. Educate Yourself

主动学习

You may not fully understand trauma unless you learn about it.

如果不主动学习，很难真正理解创伤的影响

What feels small to you may feel overwhelming to them.

对你来说没什么的大事，可能对Ta来说是巨大的触发点

Reading about trauma, listening to professionals, or attending counselling together can help.

阅读相关资料、听专业人士分享，甚至一起参与心理咨询，都会有所帮助

7. Have a Plan for Difficult Moments

为困难时刻做好准备

Notice signs of distress such as shaking, dissociation, or sudden emotional shifts.

留意Ta的反应，比如发抖、走神、情绪突然波动

Discuss beforehand what helps in those moments. Maybe grounding exercises. Maybe holding hands. Maybe space.

提前讨论在触发时如何应对。也许是做一些稳定情绪的练习，也许是牵手，也许是给空间

Also think about your own support system. Supporting someone through trauma can be emotionally demanding.

同时也要考虑你自己的支持系统。陪伴创伤疗愈是有情绪消耗的

8. Healing is Ongoing

疗愈是持续的过程

Healing does not follow a straight line.

疗愈不是一条直线

Some days will feel better. Some days may feel heavy again.

有些日子会轻松，有些日子可能又变得沉重

Small daily acts of care, consistency, and reassurance build long-term safety.

每天一点点稳定、温柔和可靠，会慢慢建立长期的安全感

Final Thoughts

Not everyone will fully understand your trauma. But someone who truly cares will try.

不是每个人都能完全理解你的经历，但真正爱你的人会愿意努力

They will choose patience over defensiveness.

ta们会选择耐心，而不是防御

They will choose curiosity over judgement.

ta们会选择理解，而不是评判

And most importantly, they will choose to create safety with you, not take it away from you.

最重要的是，Ta会选择和你一起建立安全感，而不是夺走它