About Masturbation

关于自慰

• Many men say they enjoy masturbation physically but feel emotionally conflicted about it. How do you feel?

  许多男性表示，虽然生理上喜欢自慰，但心理上却有些矛盾。你怎么看？

• Some men masturbate after sex if they didn’t climax. Have you experienced this?

  有些男性在性生活中未能达到高潮后，会选择事后自慰。你有类似经历吗？

• Some believe that enjoying masturbation means something is “wrong.” What’s your view?

  有些男性认为喜欢自慰可能意味着存在问题。你怎么看？

• Some men can’t climax through masturbation. Is that true for you?

  有些男性无法通过自慰达到高潮。你有这种情况吗？

• Some men fantasise during masturbation. Do you? If so, would you feel comfortable sharing?

  有些男性在自慰时会幻想一些情境。你会这样吗？如果愿意，可以和我聊聊吗？

• Some prefer their partner’s help with manual or oral stimulation over solo masturbation. What’s your preference?

  有些男性更喜欢伴侣帮助手淫或口交，而不是独自自慰。你更倾向于哪种方式？

• Many men finish masturbation within 10 minutes. How about you?

  许多男性表示，他们通常在10分钟内完成自慰。你呢？

• Some only need penile stimulation, others require stimulation elsewhere. What works for you?

  有些男性只需要刺激阴茎就能达到高潮，而另一些需要身体其他部位参与。你属于哪种？

• Were you taught not to masturbate when you were younger?

  你在成长过程中是否被教导不要自慰？

• What role do you think masturbation plays in our sex life?

  你认为自慰在我们的性生活中扮演什么角色？

• Would you be willing to show me how you like to touch yourself?

  你愿意向我展示你喜欢的自慰方式吗？

About Orgasm

关于性高潮

• When we are both highly aroused, how important is orgasm to you?

  当我们彼此性欲高涨时，性高潮对你来说重要吗？

• What does orgasm feel like physically and emotionally?

  高潮时你有什么身体和情感上的感觉？

• Are there times you don’t need to climax? Can you give an example?

  有时你觉得不需要高潮吗？可以举例说明吗？

• If you don’t climax, can we talk about what you need?

  当你没有高潮时，你能告诉我并讨论你的需求吗？

• Do you feel pressure to climax, either from me or from social expectations?

  你是否感受到来自我或社会的压力，觉得必须要有高潮？

• Do you ever feel like orgasm involves performance?

  你觉得你的高潮是否有“表演”的成分？

• If I climax and you don’t, how do you feel?

  如果我高潮了而你没有，你会有什么感受？

• What feels most sexually stimulating to you?

  什么对你来说最具性刺激？

• What does an erection feel like emotionally? Urgent? Calm? Powerful?

  勃起时你有什么感觉？紧迫？平静？自信？

• After you climax, what do you need from me?

  你高潮后，我应该怎么做？

About Gender Roles and Communication

关于性别角色和沟通

• Do you expect sexual contact to always lead to intercourse and orgasm?

  你是否期待所有的性接触都发展成性交和高潮？

• Do you sometimes prefer intimacy without it leading to intercourse?

  你是否有时更喜欢不一定发展成性交的亲密？

• Do you find it easy or difficult to express your needs during sex?

  你在性行为中表达需求容易还是困难？

• Do you worry that expressing your desires might hurt me or lead to rejection?

  你是否担心表达真实需求会伤害我或被拒绝？

• Do you feel pressured to have sex with me? How can I reduce that pressure?

  你是否感到必须与我发生性行为的压力？我可以怎样减轻？

About Libido

关于性欲

• Do you think your libido is higher or lower than mine?

  你觉得你的性欲比我高还是低？

• How do you handle differences in desire between us?

  你如何处理我们之间性欲的差异？

• When you want sex and I don’t, what feels supportive to you?

  当你想要而我不想时，怎样的回应会让你觉得被支持？

• Would you like me to initiate more often?

  你希望我更频繁地发起性爱吗？

About Your Body

关于你对身体的感觉

• What parts of your body do you like most?

  你最喜欢自己身体的哪些部分？

• Are there parts you feel insecure about?

  有没有让你感到不自信的地方？

• Is there anything I’ve done that made you feel uncomfortable about your body?

  我有没有做过什么让你对身体感到不舒服？

• What can I do to help you feel more confident physically?

  我可以做些什么让你对身体感觉更自信？

About Touch and Oral Sex

关于手口技巧与口交

• Do you feel I move too fast or too slow with my hands or mouth?

  你觉得我在手或口的节奏上太快还是太慢？

• What type of foreplay works best for you?

  哪种前戏对你最有效？

• Do you enjoy receiving oral sex? Why or why not?

  你喜欢被口交吗？为什么？

• Do you prefer it as part of foreplay or as a standalone experience?

  你希望它只是前戏，还是可以成为独立的体验？

• How do you feel about ejaculation during oral sex?

  当你在口交时射精，你有什么感受？

About Sexual Fantasies

关于性幻想

• What are your favourite fantasies?

  你最喜欢的性幻想是什么？

• How could we explore fantasies in a way that feels safe and exciting?

  我们可以怎样安全又有趣地探索这些幻想？

About Anal Stimulation

关于肛门刺激

• How do you feel about anal stimulation, giving or receiving?

  你对肛门刺激（主动或被动）有什么想法？

• Is it something you’re curious about, comfortable with, or not interested in?

  你是好奇、可以接受，还是不感兴趣？

A Final Reflection

最后一点思考

Compared to complex organs like the heart, penises and clitorises are not complicated. What makes sex complicated is often our thoughts, expectations and silence.

相比心脏这样复杂的器官，阴茎和阴蒂其实并不复杂。真正让性变复杂的，往往是我们的想法、期待和沉默

A healthy sex life needs open communication, affectionate touch, mutual understanding and emotional safety. When those are present, sex becomes playful, connected and exciting.

一段健康的性生活需要开放的沟通、温柔的触碰、相互理解和情感安全。当这些存在时，性爱会更有玩乐感、更有连结，也更有激情