When we talk about foreplay, we often forget about afterplay — and that’s just as important.

说到前戏，我们常常忽略“后戏”，但它同样重要

Afterplay is often overlooked, but it plays just as vital a role as foreplay in the sexual experience.

后戏常被忽略，但它和前戏一样，是性爱里非常重要的一部分

One of my mentors - a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience - once said:
“Foreplay should run through the whole sexual experience. That includes aftercare too.”

我一位从业二十多年的性治疗导师曾说过：
“前戏应该贯穿整个性爱过程，其中也包括事后的照顾（aftercare）。”

Many people focus on foreplay but forget about afterplay. Once sex is over - regardless of whether there was orgasm, or who climaxed - we might feel tired and just want to fall asleep. But that moment can actually be a powerful opportunity for emotional connection.

很多人重视前戏，却忽略了后戏。性爱结束后，不管有没有高潮，或者谁高潮了，我们可能都会很累，只想倒头就睡。但这其实是一个非常好的情感连结时刻

What comes to mind when you hear the word “afterplay”?

当你听到“后戏”这个词，你第一时间想到的是什么？

Cuddling? Pillow talk? Soft kisses? Gentle eye contact?

抚摸、情话、拥抱、亲吻、眼神交流？

All of these are wonderful — and there’s even more.

这些都很好，而且还可以有更多

For example, gently cleaning your partner’s body, checking in emotionally (“How are you feeling?” - not “Was I amazing?”), or bringing them a glass of water. These small acts can communicate care and presence.

比如温柔地帮对方擦拭身体、关心对方的情绪和身体感受（而不是问“我刚刚是不是特别厉害？”），或者递上一杯水。这些小动作都在传达关心与陪伴

Here’s a conversation you might try:

你也可以尝试这样沟通：

“Did you climax? If not, is there something you’d like me to do?”
“你刚刚有爽到吗？如果没有，我可以帮你做点什么吗？”

“I really enjoyed the experience. Even without an orgasm, I feel satisfied. Maybe just hold me for a bit?”
“其实我很享受这个过程，虽然没有高潮，但我已经很满足。如果你能抱着我一会儿就更好了。”

“Would it be okay if I stayed close to you while I finish myself? And could you touch me or kiss me while I do?”
“我可以在你身边继续自慰嘛？你能亲亲我、抱抱我吗？”

These are real and valid requests. Expressing your needs doesn’t make you selfish — it shows that you’re taking responsibility for your pleasure and wellbeing.

这些都是很真实的请求。表达需求并不自私，而是对自己负责