Do you still need to masturbate when you’re in a relationship?

在恋爱关系中还需要自慰吗？

Yes. Many people masturbate even when they are in relationships or marriages.

是的。很多人在恋爱或婚姻关系中依然会自慰

Masturbation and partnered sex are different experiences. They can complement each other rather than replace one another.

自慰和伴侣性生活是不同的体验，它们可以互相补充，而不是互相替代

Solo masturbation, mutual masturbation, or using toys together are all valid options.

自己自慰、互相自慰、一起使用情趣用品，都是正常的选择

There is no reason to feel guilty about it.

不需要因此感到愧疚

What if I’ve never had an orgasm and don’t know what it feels like?

从来没有高潮过怎么办？

Exploration helps.

探索是关键

Masturbation allows you to learn about your body, your rhythm, and what kind of stimulation feels good.

自慰可以帮助你了解自己的身体、节奏和偏好

Try different techniques safely and gradually.

可以在安全的前提下尝试不同方式

If orgasm feels difficult or distressing, speaking to a health professional can help.

如果长期困扰，可以咨询专业人士

Will I accidentally urinate during masturbation?

自慰时会尿出来吗？

Usually not.

通常不会

Some people may experience squirting, but that is not the same as urination, and not everyone experiences it.

有些人可能会经历潮吹，但那不等同于排尿，而且并不是每个人都会发生

If you are concerned about mess, place a towel underneath or use the shower.

如果担心弄脏，可以垫毛巾或在浴室进行

Do women always use internal stimulation when masturbating?

女性自慰一定会插入吗？

No.

不会

Many women focus primarily on external stimulation, especially the clitoris and surrounding areas.

很多女性主要集中在外部刺激，尤其是阴蒂区域

Internal stimulation is optional, not required.

插入是可选的，不是必须的

Can I insert anything during masturbation?

自慰时可以随便往体内放东西吗？

No.

不可以

If inserting into the vagina or anus, ensure objects are:

如果需要插入阴道或肛门，物品必须：

• Smooth
• Clean
• Body-safe
• Designed for that purpose

• 光滑
• 清洁
• 材质安全
• 专门设计用于性用途

Never insert objects into the urethra.

不要将物品插入尿道

For anal play, use items with a flared base to prevent them from getting stuck.

肛门使用的物品必须有防滑底座，避免卡住

How do I encourage my partner to explore their own body?

如何鼓励伴侣探索自己的身体？

Start with curiosity and respect.

以好奇和尊重为前提

Ask what they feel comfortable with.

询问对方的舒适度

Many people grow up with sexual shame. Allow them to move at their own pace.

很多人从小受到性羞耻文化影响，要尊重对方的节奏

What’s the most important thing about masturbation?

自慰最重要的是什么？

Self-awareness.

自我了解

It is a way to understand your own pleasure without pressure.

这是在没有压力的情况下了解自己的方式

Is it okay to masturbate several times a day?

一天多次自慰可以吗？

There is no universal rule.

没有统一标准

If it does not interfere with daily life, relationships, or responsibilities, it is generally fine.

只要不影响生活、关系或工作学习，通常没问题

If it feels compulsive or uncontrollable, consider seeking support.

如果感觉失控或强迫性行为明显，可以寻求帮助

What happens if I don’t use lubrication?

不用润滑液会怎样？

You may experience friction irritation.

可能会出现摩擦不适或刺激

Using water-based or silicone-based lubricant reduces irritation.

使用水性或硅基润滑液可以减少不适

Can I use saliva as lubricant?

可以用口水当润滑吗？

It is not ideal.

并不理想

Saliva dries quickly and can introduce bacteria.

口水容易干，也可能带入细菌

Proper lubricant is safer and more effective.

专业润滑液更安全有效

How much lubricant should I use?

润滑液用多少？

More than you think.

比你想象的多一点

Adequate lubrication improves comfort and safety.

充足润滑有助于舒适和安全

How can I change the sensation?

怎么让自慰有不同感受？

Change:

可以改变：

• Position
• Speed
• Pressure
• Temperature
• Environment
• Toys

• 姿势
• 速度
• 力度
• 温度
• 场景
• 情趣用品

Exploration increases body awareness.

探索有助于了解身体

Does masturbation always lead to orgasm?

自慰一定会高潮吗？

No.

不一定

Orgasm is not mandatory.

高潮不是必须的

Pleasure and relaxation are equally valid goals.

愉悦和放松同样重要

What if I feel ashamed when I masturbate?

自慰时感到羞耻怎么办？

Shame often comes from cultural messaging.

羞耻感往往来自文化和教育背景

Masturbation is a normal human behaviour.

自慰是正常的人类行为

If guilt persists and causes distress, professional counselling can help.

如果持续困扰，可以寻求专业支持

I orgasm quickly alone but slowly with a partner. Is that normal?

自己很快高潮，伴侣帮我却很久，正常吗？

Yes.

正常

Solo stimulation is predictable and familiar. Partnered intimacy involves communication, rhythm, and emotional factors.

自己熟悉节奏，而伴侣互动涉及沟通、节奏和情绪因素

I’m not interested in masturbation. Is that abnormal?

对自慰没兴趣正常吗？

It can be normal.

可能是正常的

Low libido can be influenced by stress, hormones, medication, health conditions, or psychological factors.

性欲低可能与压力、激素、药物、健康或心理因素有关

If it concerns you, speak to a doctor or therapist.

如果困扰你，可以咨询医生或治疗师

Should I use protection during masturbation?

自慰需要保护措施吗？

Cleanliness is essential.

清洁很重要

If sharing toys, use condoms and clean them properly.

如果共用情趣用品，应戴套并清洁

If you have long nails, trim them or wear gloves to avoid injury.

指甲较长时应修剪或戴手套，避免划伤

Final Thought

最后想说

Masturbation is not about performance.

自慰不是表演

It is about comfort, curiosity, and understanding your body.

它关乎舒适、好奇和了解自己

There is no “right” way, only safe and consensual ways.

没有唯一“正确”的方式，只有安全与尊重自己的方式