Don’t Let Others Take Away Your Right to Teach Your Child

别让别人剥夺了你教育孩子的权利

Many parents aren’t sure when to start sex education, or how to explain things in an age-appropriate way. There are so many questions, and it can feel overwhelming. That’s completely normal.

很多父母都不知道什么时候该开始性教育，也不清楚该用什么方式说才合适。问题很多，确实会让人感到焦虑，这很正常

Parents have asked me about this on social media before, so I’ve decided to create a series to help. We’ll cover how to respond to children’s questions, what attitude to adopt, common scenarios, and practical examples.

之前有父母在社交平台上问我性教育的问题，所以我决定做一个系列内容，帮助大家更好地应对孩子的各种问题，包括如何回应、家长应有的态度，以及常见情境和解答方式

No Education Does Not Equal Protection

不教 ≠ 保护

Some parents believe that avoiding sex education protects their children. In reality, children are naturally curious. If you don’t provide accurate information, they will find it elsewhere, often through social media or peers. Unfortunately, much of that information is inaccurate.

很多家长认为“不讲性教育就是保护孩子”。但实际上，孩子天生好奇。如果家长不提供准确信息，他们会自己去找，常见来源包括社交媒体和同伴，而这些信息往往并不准确

You should aim to be your child’s first and most trusted source of information.

你应该成为孩子性教育的第一位、也是最值得信任的引导者

Sex Education Is Not Only About Protection

性教育不仅是“防御”，也是“理解”

Modern sex education is not just about preventing harm. If you only focus on danger and defence, children may grow up feeling fear or shame around sexuality.

现代性教育不仅仅是教孩子如何防范风险。如果只强调危险，孩子可能会对“性”产生恐惧或羞耻感

Sex education is also about body awareness, emotional development, respect, consent and healthy relationships.

性教育同样包括身体认知、情绪发展、尊重、知情同意和健康关系

Sex Education Is the Responsibility of Both Parents

性教育是父母双方的责任

Sex education should not be “go ask mum” or “ask dad.” It is also not something to outsource entirely to schools.

性教育不应该是“去问妈妈”或“去问爸爸”，也不应该完全依赖学校

Children learn by observing. They pick up your attitudes about bodies, relationships and sexuality.

孩子会模仿父母，他们会从你的态度中学习如何看待身体、关系与性

Parents Learn First

父母先学，孩子才能学

It’s okay if you didn’t receive good sex education yourself. Learning now is still valuable.

如果你自己没有接受过良好的性教育，也没关系。现在开始学习依然有意义

When parents feel more informed and confident, children feel safer asking questions.

当父母更有知识和自信时，孩子也会更安心地提问

Three Key Principles When Answering Questions

回答孩子问题的三大原则

1. Inclusive

   包容性

2. Accurate

   信息准确

3. Age-Appropriate

   年龄适宜

   
   

Age-Appropriate Sex Education Guide

不同年龄段的性教育建议

0–3 Years: NICE (Name it, Claim it, Explain it)

0-3岁：NICE原则

Use correct anatomical names such as penis, vulva and testicles, just like you would teach “arm” or “nose.”

用正确的生理名称，比如阴茎、外阴、睾丸，就像教“手臂”“鼻子”一样自然

Teach basic bodily autonomy: no one should touch their body without permission.

教孩子身体自主权：没有人可以未经允许触碰他们的身体

Keep explanations simple.

解释要简单，不需要细节

3–5 Years: Consent and Privacy

3-5岁：知情同意与隐私

Build on body awareness and begin discussing privacy.

在身体认知基础上，开始谈隐私概念

Explain that some parts of the body are private.

告诉孩子哪些部位是私密的

Respect their comfort levels with hugs or physical affection.

尊重孩子对拥抱等亲密行为的舒适界限

5–8 Years: Early Puberty Education

5-8岁：早期青春期教育

Introduce basic concepts of reproduction in simple terms.

用简单语言介绍基本的生殖概念

Explain puberty before it begins, as it may start earlier than expected.

提前解释青春期变化，因为可能会提前发生

Introduce diversity in families and relationships.

介绍不同类型的家庭和关系

8–10 Years: Expanding Knowledge

8-10岁：中期性教育

Children at this stage can understand more complex topics.

这个阶段的孩子可以理解更复杂的内容

Discuss puberty, consent, personal safety and boundaries.

讨论青春期、同意、个人安全和界限

Introduce age-appropriate information about sexual abuse prevention.

以适当方式介绍如何预防性侵害

Focus on self-advocacy and confidence.

强调自我保护与自尊

9–12 Years: Healthy Relationships

9-12岁：健康关系

Explain what healthy and respectful relationships look like.

解释什么是健康、尊重的关系

Discuss online safety and peer pressure.

讨论网络安全与同伴压力

Introduce contraception and safe sex in basic, factual ways.

以客观方式介绍避孕和安全性行为

13–18 Years: Safety, Respect and Pleasure

13-18岁：安全、尊重与愉悦

Discuss safe sex practices clearly and openly.

清楚、开放地讨论安全性行为

Teach communication skills, consent, and mutual respect.

教沟通技巧、同意和相互尊重

Acknowledge that pleasure and emotional wellbeing are part of healthy sexuality.

承认愉悦和情感健康是健康性的一部分

Encourage them to seek help when needed.

鼓励他们在需要时寻求帮助

18+ Years: Respect and Support

18岁以后：尊重与支持

Recognise that your child is now an adult.

承认孩子已经是成年人

Offer support without controlling their choices.

提供支持，而不是控制

Respect privacy while remaining available.

尊重隐私，同时保持可被求助

Quick Reminder

小提醒

Do not shame or blame your child for asking questions.

不要因为孩子提问而羞辱或责怪

Older children may not initiate these conversations. You may need to gently start them.

大孩子往往不会主动提起，家长可以温和开启话题

Parents should communicate with each other first to stay consistent.

父母之间应先沟通，保持一致态度

Sex education is not a single talk. It is an ongoing conversation built on trust.

性教育不是一次谈话，而是一段建立在信任基础上的长期对话