Today, I’m not here to teach technique. Instead, I want to:

今天我不讲技巧，而是想谈谈：

• Show parents how to talk to their children about oral sex as part of sex education.
• Briefly answer some common questions about oral sex.

1. 教父母如何在性教育中和孩子谈论口交

2. 简要回答一些常见的关于口交的问题

Why Do People Choose Oral Sex?

为什么有人会选择口交？

Isn’t intercourse enough?

难道性交不够吗？

For some people, yes. For others, sexual intimacy includes a wider range of experiences.

对有些人来说足够。但对另一些人来说，亲密关系包含更多样化的体验

Everyone’s preferences are different.

每个人的偏好都不同

Oral sex may:

口交可能带来：

• Physical pleasure

  生理愉悦

• A way of pleasuring a partner

  取悦伴侣的方式

• Variety in sexual experiences

  增加性生活的多样性

• An option that is unrelated to reproduction

  与生育无关的一种性行为

Pros

优点

• For some women, oral stimulation may increase the likelihood of orgasm.

• For some men, it may help with pacing and control.

• For both partners, it does not involve pregnancy risk.

对部分女性来说，更容易达到高潮
对部分男性来说，可能有助于节奏控制
对双方来说，不涉及怀孕风险

Cons

缺点

• Hygiene matters. Poor hygiene or unusual discharge should be checked by a doctor.

• Not everyone enjoys it. Some may feel awkward or uncomfortable.

• It can require time and physical effort.

卫生情况很重要。如有异常分泌物应及时就医
并不是每个人都喜欢口交
可能需要时间和体力

Communication is essential. Not everyone feels the same way about oral sex.

沟通非常重要。每个人对口交的感受都不同

Sex Education for Children

给孩子的性教育

When Should You Talk About Oral Sex?

什么时候谈论口交？

There is no single correct age. It depends on the child’s developmental stage.

没有固定的时间点，应根据孩子的心理发展情况而定

If your child asks, provide age-appropriate information.

如果孩子主动询问，可以提供适龄的信息

If they do not ask, choose a private and comfortable moment to introduce the topic gently.

如果孩子没有问，可以在私密、舒适的时机自然地提起

A Simple Example

简单示例

Child: “What is oral sex?”
Parent: “It’s a type of sexual activity. Would you like me to explain more?”

孩子：“什么是口交？”
家长：“它是一种性行为方式。你想多了解一点吗？”

If the child says yes, continue with simple, clear language.
If they seem unsure, you might say:
“That’s okay. We can talk about it when you feel ready.”

如果孩子表示愿意了解，可以继续解释。
如果孩子犹豫，可以说：
“没关系，等你准备好我们再聊。”

How to Explain Simply

如何简单解释

“Oral sex is when someone uses their mouth to stimulate another person’s genitals. It is a sexual behaviour that does not cause pregnancy, but it can still carry risks such as sexually transmitted infections.”

“口交是指用口部刺激他人的生殖器。这是一种不会导致怀孕的性行为，但仍然可能传播性传播感染。”

If the child says they do not understand, you can:

如果孩子表示不理解，可以：

• Use a simple educational diagram
• Recommend reliable educational resources
• Pause and revisit the topic later

• 使用简单的教育示意图
• 提供可靠的科普资料
• 暂时停止，之后再讨论

Avoid pornography as an educational tool.

避免将成人电影作为教育资源

Slang and Cultural Context

俚语与文化背景

Teenagers may encounter slang such as “third base” or “blow job.”

青少年可能会听到诸如“third base”或“blow job”等俚语

Parents do not need to panic. Calm clarification builds trust.

家长不必恐慌，冷静解释反而更有助于建立信任

Final Thoughts

Sex education is not about encouraging sexual behaviour.

性教育不是鼓励性行为

It is about:

它的核心是：

• Providing accurate information
• Teaching consent and boundaries
• Encouraging respect and autonomy
• Supporting healthy decision-making

• 提供准确信息
• 教导同意与界限
• 鼓励尊重与自主权
• 支持健康的选择

No matter your child’s age, your role is to support, guide, and remain a safe person to talk to.

无论孩子多大，父母最重要的角色是支持、引导，并成为Ta愿意沟通的安全对象